I am worried. Really worried.
My Cikebum started throwing tantrums very badly nowadays. He really shocked me by screaming, yelling, and hitting. The only thing he hasn't is making his whole body go stiff.
Last nite was the peak. He screamed and shrieked out of the blue, even when MrHubby tried to pacify him. How could I not take it personally - when it involves my darl munchkin? :'(
Experts recommend simple solutions but y'know, dealing with an ireful toddler is not always as simple as it seems. I learnt that kids are fast learners, therefore they embark on the mission of life, testing which of their actions achieve a desired result. But if it is learnt, where did he got it from?
Nursery? Err.. I doubt it. K.Hasnah seems to be able to discipline 'em well.
When Cikebum turned into a babyzilla last nite, I almost lost my temper. I could still tolerate if he has one of these factors (as I have read) hunger, overtiredness, overstimulation, frustration, fear/anxiety, inability to communicate and resisting change. But he started while he was watching his fav Otomen in the room. What? Unhappy when his superhero was kicked by the monster?
After I finished cooking, I consoled him with the bonbon, and he was quiet for a while until after we broke our fast. Then he started again. Reason? He ran away to the living room without washing his hands as usual and MrHubby caught him to force him to wash 'em (whereas normally he is the one asking for it "Osh hen...".
Example of Cikebum's tantrum (taken from MamaPasha)
I tried taming the tantrums by ignoring 1st, but it didn't work.
Then I offered a hug and asked with the softest voice I have (of all manly deep voice. Haha), but still he screamed.
Warghhh!!! It really made me stressed!
Then, I gave him a chance to apologize (if he remembers that we always solve the problem after he kissed my hand), but he screamed with a higher pitch.
Next, I stared at him and asked if anything was wrong, but he continued screeching. So, that's it...
I dragged him to the room and left him there in the darkness (the door was partly closed). I bet the neighbours could hear him well by then, but I was hoping that he would stop crying, esp. when he realized it's not working.
Unfortunately, it still went on. I entered the room, peform my Maghrib prayer next to him and he was still the same. Oh my!!! It really made me mad!!!
It was damn challenging for a temperamental me! I tried to stay calm and hug him although he seemed to refuse. Then only the cry became convulsive weeping and sob (the bonbon must be the reason, ay? Hehehe)
Since he fell asleep, until this morning that he showed signs of throwing tantrums (again), we have become more anxious. What could be the reason?
My MIL believed Cikebum has tendency to have sawan tangis. It's sorta obvious when he cried all the way from our previous home in Klang to Kg Gajah, Perak while on the way to visit me there.
So, this morning, I googled for sawan tangis. This is what I found...
Kanak-kanak atau bayi yang sakit sawan tangis biasanya akan menangis pada masa-masa tertentu tanpa sebab atau punca. Selalunya tangisan itu memanjang untuk beberapa jam.
Adakala nya makhluk halus ini memasuki badan bayi tersebut dan menggangu sistem urat saraf dan ini membuat bayi itu kesakitan atau tidak selesa. Selalunya bila merawat bayi yang kena sawan tangis, penulis mendapati adanya jin atau makhluk halus di bahagian urat saraf bayi atau di bahagian abdomen atau perut bayi. Makhluk halus ini yang menyebabkan bayi itu mengalami stomach cramps yang kita katakan colic pains.
Darussyifa suggested to recite this doa...
Doa Menghindar Syaitan
Terjemahan:Aku berlindung dengan kalimah-kalimah Allah yang sempurna daripada setiap musuh dan kecelakaan, juga daripada setiap syaitan yang tercela. Aku belindung kepada Allah yang esa lagi mulia, daripada setiap musuh dan orang yang hasad , juga daripada syaitan yang derhaka. Dengan nama Allah yang maha pemurah terhadap hambanya dengan firmanNya “Sesungguhnya Kami telah jadikan manusia itu dalam keadaan sebaik-baik kejadian”.
While Syifa AlHidayah recommended this:-
Amalan Minggu Pertama dan Kedua:
Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 1 hingga 20, baca 3 kali selepas solat Magrib atau Isyak dan mohon doa kepada Allah s.w.t.
Surah A-Ra'd ayat 30 hingga 34, baca 3 kali selapas solat Subuh atau waktu pagi dan mohon doa kepada Allah s.w.t.
Amalan minggu ketiga dan keempat:
Surah Al-Israa' ayat 79 hingga 94, baca 3 kali selepas solat Magrib atau Isyak dan mohon doa kepada Allah s.w.t.
Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 244 hingga 255, baca 3 kali selapas solat Subuh atau waktu pagi dan mohon doa kepada Allah s.w.t.
Okay. I'll try that.
And I pray for two things...
- Cikebum's smile begins to shine through the haze of anger and frustration.
- I could endure all these and train myself to be more patient.