Monday, January 25, 2010

Sitter = bigger family?

Whilst others are busy posting entries about yesterday's MBP Gathering (which yours truly will do later), I'd like to express my dilemma and seek opinions from my fellow frens.

This morning, I was awakened by the alarm of unread sms...
"Salam. Kak Nah minta maaf esok Kak Nah cuti lg blk kg sepupu meninggal."

It was already 5am, and the details showed that the sms was sent at about 2am. I am not inconsiderate, but I was so unhappy yet indecisive bcoz today I have a lab and a lecture to attend.

To make things worse, actually this is the third time of the month she takes such leave.

The first one was on the first day of the semester, which happened to be the same day of schoolkids registration, so she took a day off to arrange for her son's registration (who is already in standard berapa ntah, NOT in standard 1 pun!)

I was in dilemma bcoz as the semester starts, we lecturers are not allowed to take leave, esp on days that we have lectures. So, I had to bring Lil Adam to my office.


Ten days later, she requested for another day off to send her daughter to UiTM Segamat. My oh my...and again, I was perplexed.
Coincidentally, MrHubby was not feeling well, so he took an MC cum to look after Lil Adam while I attended my lectures.

I understand she too is a human being with needs and wants. Every employees are given a few days of annual leave, but well... I think this is pretty disturbing.

Prolly what a friend said is true... having a sitter is like having a big family. It's like an addition to our own family.

When she is not feeling well, we can't send our kid(s).
When she has a relative's kenduri, we have to take a day off too.
When she has an emergency, we too are affected.

So should I proceed sending Lil Adam to her...or should I consider a taska/kindy? But if I were to do so, I prefer it to be a one-off change for him.
Kalo sekarang tukar pegi sitter lain, one or two years later nak hantar ke taska/kindy pulak. Kesian dia bertukar-tukar kawan in a short time.

Please help me by giving me some opinions. TQ

19 comments:

  1. ayo cari sekolah bareng biar pasha ada temennya.. :D

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  2. emang bisa? kang berantem lagi di sekolah, gmn? hahaha.
    sekolahnya pasti mo yg dkt sec9 kan? tapi kalo adam dpt adik, berarti, harus yg dkt ttdi terus...bisa jaga adiknya sekali :P

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  3. i pun tgh dilemma psl nak hantar ke tak aliah ke taska (currently she's on grannysitter yg buatkan dia bertmbh manja n i akan jadi hulk hogan bila dia buat perangai dpn PIL- u can guess what i mean)

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  4. erhmmm,, sama la kiter.. this is the problem where working mummies always think tuk jd SAHM/WAHM.

    like myself, since husband babysitter accident and potong kaki, everyweek dier akn pg hosp tuk physiotherapy and evrytime tue la dier akn bw amirul. i dont mind of taking amirul along with them tp bler blk umh, amirul nmpk pnt and last week, amirul dmm. tue la yg hangin nya. somemore rsau gak amirul's safety. cam2 la huda pk.

    so last2 me decide tuk send amirul nursery which myslf really berat tuk berbuat demikian..


    erhmmm

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  5. hye ya isabelle!!!
    rindu sama kamu...hahahaha....

    erm, to me mmg la kita kene consider bb sitter tu ada hal.. but the bb sitter must also consider dgn kita punya work time.. eg, my mum is also a sitter.. but whenever she ada hal, she will ask permission to take leave EARLIER.. bkn sms pukul 2 pagi..so this will allow the mother to plan her leave or if she cant, she'll find someone to bb sit her child.


    selalunya both party will have to practice give and take..

    to me, sending to taska would be the last option.. unless la kalo aku mampu nak bayar taska yg mahal yg tak ramai budak dia kene jaga...wahahaahahaha....

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  6. hantar babysitter, nursery, grannies or even tinggal pada maid semua ada pros and cons.

    tapi kalau bs selalu sangat amik cuti sampai affected kita punya kerja, then it's time for u to consider nursery.

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  7. salam Isabelle!!
    hurm..saye rase awak kene hantar ke nursery kot. + Adam will soon dapat adik!!;)

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  8. salzahari,
    save la sikit hntr kat PIL.tu la kan...nak hntr kat taska, mcm awal sgt pulak rasanya.

    kambingbujang,
    oh..so u finally changed? camna progress amirul dr segi belajar, socializing skills?

    fizamior,
    hye there. miss u2. mesti syok pp bali kan?
    psl taska tu, betul ckp u.duit pun kena fikir gak.

    dd lala,
    tapi nanti kesian kat adam sbb baru nak make friends, tpaksa tukar tempat lagi.

    suhana,
    part yg last tu..x sure pun lagi.hehe. kalo tercapai, maka kena betul2 fikir la nmpknya.

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  9. ::isabell::
    hantar PIL bkn kita hantar free..mesti gak lah bg sguhati utk mereka berbelanja apa2 yg depa tringin nak beli utk cucu ke ape ke emergency! emm...mana2 pun ada pro.n cons.la! kesian kita....

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  10. haih same case here belle. last year kan kita banyak cuti hari jumaat.. dia pulak mintak cuti khamis ngn senin, geram tak????

    Alasan husband dia cuti time tu soh dia pon nak bercuti!

    Dia ni ckp sikit kecik ati, aku tanya anis minum susu tak, dia interpret "ko ingat aku tak kasi anak ko susu ke?"

    Aku tanya pasal anak dara tu takmo botol, takmo susu...

    haish

    Kalo dia jaga okeh.. tahan je la dulu. takpon antar playschool

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  11. hmm.. mesti buntu kan...
    at the same time kesian pulak pada anak, kejap hantar sana kejap hantar sini...
    i nak advice tapi takde pengalaman lagi.. huhu...

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  12. hmm..
    itu salah satu sebab saya ke pilih taska...

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  13. ermmm... serba salah gak yer..
    p'na sib baik antar Oja kt MIL tp my MIL pun ada gak jaga ank org.. nie bkn kes bby sitter yg amik cuti, bby sitter lak yg x dpt cuti..huhuhu

    sian aku tgk sabtu ahad pn sebulan sekali je dpt cuti coz bdk yg MIL jaga tu mak dia keja PLUS, so mmg keja shif.. sian tau! kalu jga smpai mlm2 dh mmg standard dah..

    hubby aku ada ckp suruh jaga oja jer dah la.. tp MIL aku ckp bdk2 tu peneman dia laks..huhu aduss..
    aku pn dlm dilema gakss...

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  14. salam kenal isabelle,

    kita jumpa kat mbp ahad lepaskan..
    kejap je borak yek..u mmg sporting hehe

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  15. this feb baru start nak anta amirul to nursery. actually more to day care instead of nursery yg ader blaja2 tue.. sbb for 2yrs toddler, they more interest tgk tv, main lompat sana sini.. erhmmmm

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  16. dear, i anto anak i kt nursery at the age of 2 yrs old. bagus sebenarnye sbb dier dpt blajo bnyk. mahal skit la dlm 400 sbb ratio dier 1.4. satu penjaga jaga dlm 4-5 kids tpi berbaloi.n ader tadika skali. so umur 4 anak i 1/2 day tadika n 1/2 day nursery. now anak i 5 thn n i anto skola lain n senang dier x nanes sbb dh biasa bercampur. btw i tggl kt shah alam.

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  17. salzahari,
    hehehe. betul gak kan? xkan nak semberono je buat x hulur apa2.

    jiji,
    i pun malas nak 'bunyi2' psl dia cuti tu. kang dia ungkit pulak masa2 yg i tpaksa lmbt skit amik adam. lgpun silap aribulan, anak kita yg terima akibatnya. manalah tau...

    lady of leisure,
    xpe.u collect the knowledge first so u r well-prepared when the time comes.

    sya,
    hmm..untungnya darwisy.

    pna,
    kesian MIL hang. ada betulnya jugak budak2 tu jadi peneman oja.

    iem,
    hi there. nice meeting u.selalu2 la drop by ye.

    kambingbujang,
    yes, i dont think sending them to learn that early is a good idea.

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  18. klu sya, sya suggest anta je kt taska..sian tau budak2 ni..nanti nak kena bertukar2 kawan..cm sara alhamdulillah, dia nmpk serasi kt taska baru ni..happy je skrg ni.lgpn taska takde mslh sgt psl cikgu kerap bercuti ni kan.diorg ada pengganti.

    lin muhamad last post..#cameron highlands+lecture+checkup+toys+love-bite+ikea+hutang

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  19. yeah Isabelle...it seems like its a common problem esp if we send to those yg takde backup on their part, kan?

    I also had to change sitter, and now hopefully this one will do him good. (and us, the parents too) Kang pening annual leave all gone je :P

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