Look into his eyes (err...the pics, I mean) and ask yourself- what made u attracted to him when u first courted him?
The reasons we fall in love are often a mystery, yet the reasons we stay in love are far less elusive.
Mine might not be a perfect partner, but he is an ideal one for me. The set of qualities that our partners possess has made us go beyond looks, charms and success. Those qualities might be uniquely meaningful to us alone, but now let's talk about what makes a man special in our eyes.
Ideal partners should have physical, emotional and verbal affection that demonstrate the feelings of warmth and tenderness. Don't talk about sexual affection here, bcoz when we first got to know our partner, it's not in the list.
Boy, I was afraid if MrHubby (MrBoyfren, then) would find it awkward to display his affection as he was not of that type. Fortunately he changed as time goes by. Hahaha. Padan muka dapat bini yang suka PDA (public display of affection).
Well, marriage is a two-way communication, thus should be enjoyed by giving and accepting the pleasure of company.
Who would want a non-understanding partner to share his/her life with? Gila wei tanggung emosi sorang-sorang.
Couples should be aware of the commonalities between them and understanding is the key to appreciate the differences. Empathy is also important to communicate with respect and feeling the wants, attitudes and values, so we feel appreciated. Do u agree with me?
Sense of humour
This quality will help to ease the tense moments in a relationship. Well in the first year of our courtship, I was worried if he wouldn't understand why was I behaving childishly. But now I am proud to say that I am playful and love teasing him...
You know... I know some couples whose husband have to start the jokes with "Darla, I'm gonna tell a joke now, eh..." (Poor guy!)
Anyway, as a matter of fact...I find guys who have extra knowledge on the religion attractive! It's great to see that there's still plenty of guys out there who could recite the Quran well, who could advise us with dalil naqli to support their stand or who intelligently discuss religious matters wisely. These people sure have a bonus point in my eyes!
Full of patience.
No man can be my life partner if they are lacking at this. Enough said.
We should be sensitive to the wants and desires of our better-halves, value each other’s interests and be supportive of the goals in life. Some people find it hard to practice, but the key is simple- communicate.
I am an expressive person, hence there's no excuse for MrHubby to say "Oh, sorry dear...I didnt know that!"
However, while we closely share emotions, we still have to be respectful of one another’s personal boundaries.
Basically, all of us are grown ups. But what I mean here is maturity that make people act like an adult.
I used to have several not-so-matured bfs once ago, and it was like knocking my own head on the wall. Sakit hati ada partner yang x cukup matang! So, I told myself it's a no-no to settle down with this kinda men.
Grown-ups won't go for someone to compensate their weaknesses or shortcomings. Neither would they complete their incompleteness. It's more on having a spouse with qualities similar to ours, with whom we can share life in a compatible way.
For whatever qualities that MrHubby possesses, I am grateful to have him.
For whatever qualities he is lacking, I'd remind myself two things...
-He'll improve one day
-I myself have weaknesses to improve...