Demanding kids

DrWan told me his Affiq has asked him for I-dont-remember-how-many times...to get him a DSLR.
Gila wei... aku yang dah hidup 18tahun ni pun tak beli lagi kamera mahal tu!

When I was small, I didn't even dare to ask Abah to buy me a new pair of school uniform (sampai baju yang aku pakai masa Hari Penyampaian Hadiah tu sangat obvious sentengnya!)
Okay...yang tu maybe masa kecik sangat.

Affiq is 14. At that age, I...errr... (*rekindling*)....
To make a call to Kulim (from BM) to a friend pun, tak berani. Masa tu, the Telekom directory showed the rate of 40cents per 3mins kot (kalo tak silap la).

I have agreed with MrHubby that we'd never shower our kid(s) with luxury.
Bukan dengki sebab kitorang kecik2 dulu tak dimanjakan dengan barang2/toys/pakaian mahal...but I believe in the phrase (quoted from Disney's Mulan) "the flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of all."

Yesterday, I surrendered when Lil Adam wanted an ice cream. Eskrem biasa xnak, nak drumstick gak... (x agak-agak!).


Here are some tips for taming the demanding kids

Step 1. Get to the Bottom of It
Ask- why is he/she so demanding? Is it bcoz he/she is used to getting his way, or could there be other factors?
Prolly he needs attention? Or do u practice favoritism? Does he know how to say it courteously?
Eleh...Lil Adam mengada jer kekadang tu. I dah ajar pun, asyik la dengan taktik lembik lutut dia tu kalo nak protes. Hampess!!

Step 2. State Your New Attitude Expectation
Tell him/her that the pushy, self-centered, "I want it and I want it now" behavior will no longer be tolerated. It's okay to want something, but he/she must ask respectfully (not with a demanding voice).
If he/she refuses...just ignore until he asks nicely.
p/s: once u do this, NEVER BACK DOWN!
Kadang-kadang, yours truly pun dah malas dengar Lil Adam melalak, bagi jugak. Hmm..should be firmer after this.

Step 3. Demand A Courteous Voice
Some kids just don't know how to state their needs any other way. They believe that loud, whining will help them get what they want.
Show him/her examples and make him/her repeat it to you. Selagi x puas hati, keep on saying "Excuse me." or "Try again, please."
Well, Lil Adam knows that his "Sowi, Mama" and "Ailefiu, Mama" always work.

Step 4. Teach the Difference Between Needs and Wants
A need is a necessity and a want is not essential.
Answer only demands that are asked in a respectful, polite tone and only ones that are true needs.
Yet to implement this one.

Step 5. Don't Be Afraid to Say No
Set a limit that he'll understand that not all his desires will be met. His expectations would be lower
Tell him no matter how demanding, annoying, and obnoxious his behavior, he'll and KEEP YOUR WORDS! If u let him win, he'll know the tricks.

Step 6. Boost Empathy and Sensitivity
Demanding kids only consider their own agenda. SO, they must be taught to consider other person's feelings and needs.
Try this...

• Switch roles. So ask your kid to imagine being the other kid. "Pretend you were him/her. If he keeps on doing that...would u go to his/her house again to play together?"
  
• Imagine the other person. -"Did you notice Ayah was resting? Do you think he appreciated you interrupting him right then?"
  

Last nite, I forced Lil Adam to sleep in the cot. Tak larat share dah la... dia tido buas sekarang nih! So, tonite I should do it again. Duh!

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Mama is not Mami

Some kids call it Mak, some call it Ibu.
Ada yang panggil Bonda, Mommy, Ma, Emak (ada ke? skemanye!)...
Well, whatever u call it, it refers to the same person, the female parent who gave birth to u.

Before I delivered Lil Adam, I wanted him to call me Mama/Momma.
Why Mama?

The reasons for me not choosing other terms are listed below:

• Ibu: That is a NO-NO! I think 'ibu' is too soft, and my character does not reflect the term 'ibu'

• Bonda: I have a friend (Putri) who calls her mom 'Bonda.' Tapi keturunan Saripah gitu la, and to me the term is too formal and untuk golongan bangsawan jer..hihihi. Ada lagi ke bangsawan zaman IT nih?

• Mak: I call my mom "Mak." And bcoz I don't wanna be like my Mak (garang x hengat!) , I don't want my kid(s) to call me the same. I think 'Mak' is conventional and it resembles the typical
  

• Ma: Hehe... Aku yang anak Cina ni pun x pernah panggil mak aku tu "Ma...". Kensel.

• And it is not mummy/mommy, bcoz it sounds like Mami.

'Mami' would remind me of the jajan Mamee...

or the embalmed, wrapped mummy...

atau lebih teruk lagi, people might think that I am a Mami (kena pulak sebab chek orang Penang!)
Alaaa..set-set mami jarum yang gelang penuh lengan sampai nak bengkok siku pun x buleh tuuu! Hahaha

p/s: Aku pantang sangat kalo bila aku introduce diri as a Penangite, orang balas "O...anak mami la ni?"

My friend, Bidah told me that she never planned what endearment that she wanted her kids to address her. She simply came up with "Mak" bcoz that's how she called her late mom.

So, you guys... why did u choose Mama, Ibu or whatnot? Ada reasons jugak ke?

Guess what?

Lil Adam is not pelat when articulating words.

But some words are gibberish.

When he says... Tabin, actually he means...

Li-ter an-taiiii is actually...

Ailapi refers to Barney (from its song "i love u, u love me...")

So, now...can u guess which cartoon character is Lil Adam's trying to say when he says...

Pong-kok peng-ken ???

Quiz: Ur role model

Am a bit bz marking the test papers at the moment. So, in the meantime...let's find out who is your role model. Mine was Einstein.

DON'T SCROLL DOWN YET!!


FIRST, do the simple math below.
THEN, scroll down to find your hero.

It is truly remarkable just how accurate this is!



1) Pick your favourite number between 1 and 8

2) Multiply your choice by 3

3) Add 3

4) Multiply again by 3

5) You'll get a 2 digit number.....maybe 42, for example

6) Add the digits together. Example 4 and 2 = 6



Now Scroll down.

























With that number, see who your ROLE MODEL is from the list below:


1. Albert Einstein
2. Oprah Winfrey
3. Mother Theresa
4. Ronald Reagan
5. Bill Gates
6. Gandhi
7. Eleanor Roosevelt
8. Babe Ruth
9. Isabelle thesnowwybear
10.Winston Churchill
11.Barbara Walters
12.Dalai Lama





I know, I know...

I just have that effect on people...

One day you, too, can be like me....Believe it! :P